Facing Unworthiness – Self-Love Sunday with Klara Kazmi

The fear of rejection is such a paralyzing and powerful fear.
It connects us to the most horrifying feeling of them all, unworthiness.

Most of us go through life making choices to escape facing unworthiness.
We choose to go for the job that we think we can get, not what we want.
We choose to go for the partner that feels easy and safe so they won’t mirror our fears back at us.
We choose to not even allow ourselves to think about what it is our heart truly desires, because then we might have to meet our fears and ultimately feel the unworthiness.

We think that all of the choices we make on a daily basis are our own, but in reality they are just distractions that we choose to escape facing the feeling of unworthiness.

So what would happened if we went for our dreams and failed?
If we expressed our truth and got criticized?
If we put our heart on the table and got stabbed?
If we stayed vulnerable and felt the rejection fully?

We would meet everything inside and outside of us that is blocking us form living our highest purpose.
We would finally see the massive deception that keeps us paralyzed.
We would begin leaping more, making choices that are based in love and not fear.
We would find out how utterly beautiful and powerful we all truly are and judgment would cease.
Yes, We would find out the truth, that we are worthy.

See, when we shine the loving light on a feeling inside us, when we dare to meet it and see it for what it is, a man-made belief, it begins to loose its power over us. This gives us the opportunity to give this belief new directions, and allow it to become a new belief, one that serves our hearts direction.

We came to this planet worthy dear, so let us all face this fear so we can leave worthy too.

The Voice of Truth

We all need that voice that makes us believe in ourselves. Either we find it within ourselves or outside ourselves. It doesn’t matter which one comes first, because one attracts the other.

Once we start listening to the sweet melody singing our praise, our whole being slowly fills up with a warm and beautiful sensation, that is our self worth.


Marry Yourself

Beautiful light. I want to encourage you to a more intimate relationship with yourself. Date yourself, fall deeply In Love with yourself, commit to yourself and marry yourself. As your self worth expands, doubt and obstacles disappear.

If you are curious about Self Marriage and what it is, here is a short description from wikipedia.

Self-marriage or Sologamy is marriage by a person to oneself. It is known as a commitment that values self-love, and self-compassion. Supporters of the practice argue that it leads to a happier life.

Self Dating

The thing about self-dating is that once you truly commit to yourself you instantly want to become the best version of you.

The same expectations that you would have of a partner, you begin asking from yourself.

You care for, cherish, pamper and adore yourself more and more each day, and once you find out how YOU need to be loved, you won’t ever settle for anything less.

You will finally see what a blessing you are, and you will see it in everyone you meet.

OUT OF FUCKS

I recently realized that I’ve been censoring my art out of fear of hurting some people, or not managing to help heal them. I’ve been procrastinating releasing much of my work in fear of how it will be received. Isn’t that crazy?!
Me and my fear went on a date to the forest and we laughed long and hard at how silly we’ve been acting. I know that the healing of this behavior has just begun, but I do feel that something has shifted. It’s like a part of me is out of fucks. It’s true, a part of me is celebrating the lightness of releasing years of agony of how I affect people.

You see, for as long as I can remember, probably ever since I came to this planet, I have been wanting to assist people on their journey, to help remind them of their greatness. This need to assist, has created a lot of complications in my own human experience. I have felt obligated to always give people my best and been deeply concerned if people are offended with me or my art. As a coach, I would tell myself to stop caring what others think and just put out whatever I feel like putting out in our beautiful web of co creations. Sadly I haven’t been listening to my inner reason for a long time. Instead I have been listening to and feeling other peoples reactions.
I am a happy and quite positive person, I have chosen to be this way, it makes me feel good. I can’t help but to see the beauty in everything and most of my art is a reflection of that.
One might think that people like hearing uplifting music and that they enjoy receiving beams of hope, that is true for many people, but not everybody. Think about it, If you are sad, maybe even deeply depressed, do you want to hear how wonderful life is? not always right?
If you are in a deep agony and sit in a dark room dwelling in the deliciousness of this intense and beautiful emotion, do you enjoy someone bursting in and opening the curtains, shouting out “what a wonderful day, look at the sunshine and all the butterflies”? No, you probably don’t. That person might seem annoying and provoking to you, maybe even fake. You might think that that person just doesn’t get the complexity of life, that they are shallow and trite. You might be right, or you might be wrong.
We don’t always know everybody’s story and how they got to be who they are, do we?
If I could have a penny for every time, as a young woman, I’ve heard phrases like” let’s talk when you’re older and when life has played a number on you too, let’s see how positive you are then”. I’ve never felt any resentment towards these people, because I truly know where they are coming from. I feel their pain. See, life has already played a number or two on me. I have lost both my parents, been abused, been abandoned, cried myself to sleep every night for years, been bullied, been sick and felt deeply misplaced and unwanted most parts of my life. Believe me when I say I get it! Life can feel tough sometimes.

Everybody handles these ups and downs in their own way. Personally I feel that everything I have experienced has taught me to see how magical this human experience truly is. I feel that it’s a privilege to be alive and I can’t help but to fall involve with every moment, be it dark or light, and that discovery is what I share with my audience.

I get a lot of beautiful letters, emails, comments from you guys telling me how much you appreciate my art, and how my art has helped you. I want you to know that I appreciate those warm words immensely. But I have finally learned that I can’t depend on these words and I can’t please everyone. I have never gotten any bad response for my art, but I can feel that there are people that my art doesn’t reach, people whom other artist speak to… and you know what, it’s ok! I should not change to cater to them.
Whatever I feel is true to my heart, that is what I should share.

This might sound like an obvious thing to do to you, but it has taken me my whole life to get to this point. Not only regarding my art, but all peoples opinions about me.
I’m just out of fucks…and this is where life begins.

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Wishing you all mental clarity and an open heart. Please feel free to share your own evolution with me. #Loveolution.
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You are worthy

Lately I have been working a lot with my self worth. Now I clearly see that whatever area I have felt displeased with in my life, it has always come down to the fact that I haven’t felt worthy enough. I have also discovered another thing, many times what I have desired has changed once I do feel worthy. I am observing and learning that ultimately what I have been seeking is validation and a feeling of self worth, so many desires simply become redundant once that feeling is achieved some other way. I can give you a example. If I am feeling sensitive and insecure about my physical appearance, I might desire compliments from the opposite sex, but once I feel fabulous about myself and really dig myself, those compliments are no longer what I desire or need from a man. Their words might be appreciated as beautiful sprinkles on my cake, but the creamy gooey stuff in the middle is provided by yours truly.

I have seen my own and others desires shift radically once they find a way to feel worthy in the area they desire. It makes me think that we need to focus more on self worth in our society.

You are worthy of all you desires, how does that statement feel to you? You might have a whole arsenal of resistance coming up, bombarding you with negativity, or you might hear a bunch of cheerleaders scream “Hell Yeah!”.
Whatever your response is, I want to invite you to try an exercise with me.

Stand in front of the mirror, gaze deeply into your eyes and say this out loud:

I am worthy of everything I desire.

Say it 3 times (or as many as you desire).

Repeat this as often as you can, like every time you brush your teeth, or passa a mirror.
Tell yourself that you are worthy. Slowly, slowly you’ll feel empowered and you’ll begin to see what it is your heart truly desires.
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If you feel like sharing your self worth progress or other inspiration on this topic, please use the hashtag #YOUREWORTHIT on social media.

Happy Healing, You’re worth it!
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Teatime with Fear.

This past new moon fear payed me a visit, or more accurately, I invited her. I’m happy I did though, because this visit brought me lots of clarity.

I have carried many fears inside this body over the years, and still have some left, fear of what others think of me, fear of letting go, fear of being a bad mother, fear of being a bad partner, fear of failing at my life purpose, fear of not having been a good enough daughter, or a good enough friend, fear of not honoring my heart and my dreams. All in all I have had a fear of failing at this human experience.

When I type it out like this, it sounds silly, doesn’t it?
How can one fail at being human? The answer that pure logic delivers to me, is that you can’t. It’s simply impossible. Being human means being flawed, that is the human perfection.

“Being human means being flawed, that is the human perfection.”

So what I am uncovering is something that I think I have known all along.
I am perfect, my fears are beautiful teachers that come to teach me that there are some areas inside me that need more love, and to show me the magic I possess in creating a beautiful experience for myself and others on this planet. I know  that in this reality, on planet Tellus, without darkness there really is no light. We must embrace both to see the other. I’m not saying you have to grow through pain, you don’t, you can definitely grow through love, and you should. I’m telling you that when you embrace your fears and start seeing them as caring friends, then you start feeling that they aren’t that bad, It becomes more pleasant and interesting when they visit.
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Sometimes they become like distant relatives that come very seldom, and that is nice too, but when they do come, sit with them, be present,  ask them questions, brew them a cup of tea and have a heart to hearth conversation. I am sure you’ll learn something beautiful about yourself, I know I did.

Sending you all lots of love and light.

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